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The Truth About Romance Relationships
They say true love will last for all eternity? You know, like you see in plays such as "Romeo and Juliet." Here these two star-crossed lovers passionately fall for one another, and there is nothing anyone can do about it. Of course, we conveniently forget that they were driven to commit suicide shortly after.
This brings me to my point. Although the concept of romance relationships sounds like a wonderful ideal that should last forever, it's not. And if you're thinking of using Romeo and Juliet as an example, forget it! The time they had together was only a matter of days. If they had lived and spent a few years together, it wouldn't be the same. It can't be. That would go against the natural cycle we see in every other couple/relationship on this planet. Romance tends to fade, or often even die.
The reality is that we all have to work on our relationships and marriages. They will not simply take care of themselves. I find myself advising the younger folks that romance relationships just do not stay perfect. Sure, the beginning can seem phenomenal. Everything is new for both of you and you're excited to learn more and more about each other. Unfortunately, you do exactly that, and then you discover that there's no more mystery. You suddenly realize that you're spending all of your time together and things start to get routine. Before you know it, you're living together or married and have a child on the way. Say goodbye to romance relationships and hello to the mundane.
Okay, wait a minute! I'm not trying to completely dismiss or disregard marriage or long-term relationships. After all, this is what I happily have in my life. I'm only pointing out that the "honeymoon stage" will indeed fade. This is when you really need to consciously start making time for one another and trying your best to spice things up. Put some mental energy and effort into it. You can even find advice on romance relationships in books or the web. Maybe you will run across something new that sounds ideal for you and your significant other. New can often be a good thing. Real relationships need real work.
When it comes to romance relationships, I'll readily admit that I'm not an "expert". However, I am one that is willing to work hard to better what I have. You want to know why? Because it's worth it. You may have fallen in love with your partner long ago, and since then the love/passion may have faded a bit, but now you can choose to love them forever, or not. It certainly takes effort from both parties, but is totally possible, and actually not all that hard once you accept the responsibility to know what you want and to make it happen for you.
