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How To Win A Girls Heart BackSo, here you are – in love still, but fearing you've lost her love. Now, the question is, how to win a girl's heart back? In some cases, it depends on how you lost her love – did you commit some terrible mistake or dastardly deed that finds you in this mess? Or are you totally clueless as to what happened? You shouldn't (necessarily) despair, not just yet. Here we've got some tried and true tips on how to proceed from here, along with a few insights that can help you learn where things went wrong between you. No one is perfect, and that includes her, but keep in mind that now is not the time to remind her of that! Let's get right down to how to win a girl's heart back ... in both practical terms and with a little dose of romantic sensitivity.
Before we tackle the practical side of how to win a girl's heart back, please carefully consider what St. Augustine, a prolific lover of women, had to say on the subject of love: “What I needed most was to love and to be loved, eager to be caught. Happily I wrapped those painful bonds around me; and sure enough, I would be lashed with the red-hot pokers of jealousy, by suspicions and fear, by bursts of anger and quarrels.” Sound familiar? While jealousy, suspicion, fear and anger are normal human emotions, when expressed in excess, particularly when those feelings are unfounded, they are understandably not well received by women. Note also that some men (not you, hopefully) desire the state of being in love not only for the positive aspects but for the negative repercussions as well. Just give that some thought with an open mind.
On the other hand, as mentioned above, the steps you take depend in part on how you evidently lost her love in the first place. Did she cheat on you? Did you break up with her in the heat of the moment, whereupon she went out and found someone else, as they say, 'on the rebound'? Do you love her truly, despite her imperfections? Knowing the truth of your heart sometimes requires that you take a step back, reflecting on your own feelings and motives.
Once you have these background considerations well in hand, knowing that your woman is your own true love, it's time to take action. Here's the plan on how to win her heart back, for that happily-ever-after storybook romance that can be yours.
You'll need an appropriately romantic greeting card. This essential can be obtained at the greeting card store (in the romance section) or online in the form of an e-card, although a physical card is more personal and demonstrates that you put more effort and thought into it. You know best which will appeal most to the love of your life. You'll want to let her know how much she means to you – and why – in all the sincerity you can muster. If you think you're not good with words, by all means get some help, either from a trusted friend or a professional writer. The key to success in your campaign on how to win your girl's heart back lies in sincerity. Speak to her heart. Admit any imperfections of your own and emphasize her sterling qualities. Remind her of the good times.
Sending candy and flowers is a must. If she dislikes or can't eat candy, substitute whatever treat will touch her heart. For your first foray, it's probably best if you don't show up at her door. This may ruin your chances. You've got to allow some time for her to ponder and reflect on your sincere desire to regain her love. Don't pressure her with phone calls. This may only hinder your objectives in how to win her heart back. Be cool. Express your love truthfully, with no hidden agendas, such as attempting to catch her off guard. Trickery is off limits with any honest program of how to win a girl's heart back!
One strategy that proves to bring results is the old 'tug at the heartstrings', along the lines of, 'If you love me, let me know. If not, please gently let me go'. This puts the ball in her court, but is also effective reverse psychology.
Do be sure you want her. Bette Davis so cynically summarized the concept of love in this way: "The pleasure of love lasts but a moment, but the pain of love lasts a lifetime." So there you have, in a nutshell, how to win a girl's heart back. To success in love.