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Amy Waterman has been helping couples stop the downward spiral with "Save My Marriage Today" since 2003. Women and men, young and not so young, have learned how to regain control and turn their relationship problems around, even when the situation seemed hopeless. Discover the strategies to regain the loving and fulfilling marriage you know you deserve.
How To Save A Marriage AloneWhen your marriage is in trouble, that is the time when both partners need to work together, yet often that is the most difficult time to try and get your spouse to cooperate. For this reason, you may be wondering how to save a marriage alone.
Depending on the kind of marriage problems you are having, your spouse may not even fully realize the depth of the problem, or may feel that the problem is so severe that it is of no use to try to save the marriage. So the question becomes, is there anything I can do to save my marriage alone?
Fortunately, the answer is, yes! Relationship experts such as Dr. Lee Baucom and Amy Waterman have seen this problem many times, and discovered that you can be proactive and do things to help save your marriage, even if your partner doesn’t want to work on it. The reason for this is simple.
You have to realize that in a relationship as complex as marriage, every action taken by one partner affects the other, there is no escaping that fact. These experts teach their clients how to use this fact to their advantage. Their methods include a degree of introspection, encouraging you to take a step back so you can see the situation for what it is, and replace your automatic, instinctive responses to events and conflicts with more conscious, calculated actions that diffuse the marital problems and ultimately serve you and the relationship better. Slight changes in the way you approach your relationship will prompt more desirable responses from your partner.
Amy and Lee do not ask you to accept all the blame for your troubled marriage, but obviously when you are looking for ways to save a marriage alone, the first place to start, the place where you have the most power and control, is with yourself. Once you take the initial steps to save your marriage, your partner will become easier to communicate and reason with. They may not even realize the subtle change in the dynamic of the relationship that you have put into place, or they may be thrown a little off balance when your reactions are not what they expected.
This is the effect you are trying to achieve. You cannot entirely save a marriage alone, as the marriage involves the both of you, but you can stop repeating the same patterns that just make the problems worse, and open up lines of communication and reawaken feelings between you that have been suppressed under the weight of the problems you have been experiencing. When this has been achieved, then you can go to work on identifying and resolving the core relationship problems you are facing. When both of you realize the importance and value of the marriage, it will be much easier to negotiate agreement on the individual differences you might have. At this point, you will no longer have to wonder how to save a marriage alone, you will be working on strengthening the marriage together!